Resources

• Dare to Connect

  • Hosted by two former porn addicts walking through their recovery and the science behind it

  • Practical, lived-experience tone rather than clinical

• Unravelling the Big Mystery

  • Explores the psychology behind porn addiction and how it forms

  • Good entry point if you want to understand the "why" before the "how"

• Solved – How to Let Go of Your Shame

  • A deep, dissertation-level dive into shame and how it fuels addictive cycles

  • Best for listeners ready for a longer, more academic listen

• Unhooked – Jeremy Lipkowitz

  • Breaks down what porn actually does to the brain and the body

  • Mindfulness-based approach to breaking the habit

• Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts (PBSE)

  • Walks through the recovery process from both the addict's and the betrayed partner's perspective

  • Especially helpful for couples navigating disclosure and rebuilding trust

• Attachment Theory Workbook for Couples – Elizabeth Gillette

  • Exercises to identify your attachment style and strengthen your relationship

  • Useful for understanding why you connect (or disconnect) the way you do

• Good Vibes, Good Life – Vex King

  • On self-love as the foundation for change

  • Less clinical, more mindset-focused

• Out of the Doghouse – Robert Weiss

  • Step-by-step playbook for men trying to repair the relationship after being caught

  • Direct, practical, and partner-focused

• Help Her Heal

  • Empathy workbook for sex addicts to support their partner's healing

  • Designed to be worked through together or solo

• Mind Over Explicit Matter

  • Neuroscience-based look at how porn rewires the brain and how to reverse it

• Every Man's Battle

  • Classic faith-based guide to sexual purity and self-control

  • A staple in Christian recovery circles

• The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

  • On choosing what actually deserves your attention and energy

  • Reframes self-worth without the sugar-coating

• The Porn Trap

  • Comprehensive guide to recognizing and recovering from porn-related problems

  • Good for individuals and couples

• The Molecule of More

  • All about dopamine and why your brain craves what it craves

  • Helps explain the chase, the crash, and the cycle

• Dopamine Nation – Dr. Anna Lembke

  • Stanford psychiatrist on how modern life overstimulates the brain and what to do about it

  • Pairs well with The Molecule of More

• Out of the Shadows – Patrick Carnes

  • The foundational text on sexual addiction; often the first book recommended in this field

  • Where most of the modern framework comes from

• Sex Addicts Anonymous "Big Green Book"

  • The 12-step program's core literature

  • Essential if you're working a 12-step program

• In the Shadows of the Net

  • Specifically about compulsive online sexual behavior

  • Relevant if your acting out lives mostly on screens

• Facing the Shadow – Patrick Carnes

  • Workbook companion to Out of the Shadows; structured first steps in recovery

• A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps – Patrick Carnes

  • Step-by-step companion for working a 12-step program

  • Less rigid, more reflective tone

• Contrary to Love

  • On helping the sexual addict, often used by partners and clinicians

  • Pairs the clinical with the relational

• Don't Call It Love

  • Carnes's research on the lives and patterns of sex addicts

  • Helpful for recognizing yourself in the data

• The Presence Process

  • A 10-week journey into present-moment awareness

  • Tool for the "be where your feet are" piece of recovery

• No Bad Parts – Richard Schwartz

  • Introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy

  • Useful for challenging deep-rooted core beliefs about yourself

• The Power of Habit – Charles Duhigg

  • How habits form, why they stick, and how to change them

  • Practical framework for replacing acting-out patterns

• Sex, Lies, and the Other Woman

  • Explores the reasons behind infidelity from the partner's side

  • Helps make sense of the "why did this happen" question

• Truple

  • Takes random screenshots of your phone and sends them to an accountability partner

  • Monitoring, not blocking — primarily for Android

• Covenant Eyes

  • Industry standard for accountability — partner sees flagged activity in a digestible report

  • Faith-rooted community resources; ~$20/month

• Canopy

  • AI-powered blocker that filters explicit content in real time before it loads

  • Strong parental-control style features; partner can prevent uninstall

• App Block

  • Lets you block distracting or risky apps and shares behavior with an accountability partner

• Brick

  • Physical device that acts like a key to lock/unlock chosen apps

  • One-time cost rather than a subscription; works best if someone else holds the brick

• No Nutt

  • Panic-button style app for redirecting urges in the moment

  • Lightweight, free, geared toward the NoFap community

• My Girl

  • Habit-tracking and accountability app aimed at quitting porn

  • Streak-based motivation

• Quitter

  • Tracks your quit streak with science-based content about brain recovery

  • Visualizes your progress over time

• Ever Accountable

  • Weekly reports to up to three accountability partners; flags inappropriate content

  • Roughly half the price of Covenant Eyes; protects inside third-party apps on iOS

• Unchaind

  • Faith-based app designed to help users break free from pornography and lust

  • Combines accountability with scripture and community

• Dr. Trish Leigh

  • Neuroscience-trained brain coach focused on porn recovery and brain rewiring

  • Bite-sized, evidence-based videos for the "what's happening in my head" question

• Sunlight

• Exercise

• Healthy Foods

• Yoga

• Sleep

• Probiotics

• Omega 3s

• Fluoxetine 

  • Increases serotonin levels, which can help manage compulsive, OCD-like behaviors often associated with pornography addiction.

Wear a rubber band 

Wear a thick rubber band around my wrist pull it back and snap it. Not advocating for hurting yourself, but ties a negative to the behavior.

Create a safety plan

If you know you get trigger in certain places or around certain people build plans around that to remain "safe"

Reach out to someone

Whether sharing the specifics or not, just reach out to someone. Call a partner, friend, or family member and either discuss your current trigger or any other topic to distract yourself.