Resources

• Dare to connect 

  • Two former porn addicts 

• Unravelling the big mystery

• Solved - How to let go of your shame

  • Dissertation level dive

• Unhooked - Jeremy Lipkowitz

  • Breadks down what porn does

• Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE

  • Breaks donw going through the process while speaking about the betrayed partner's experience

• Attachment Theory Workbook for Couples Exercises to Strengthen and Grow your Relationship

  • Elizabeth Gillette

• Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

  • By Vex King

• Out of the Doghouse: A Step-By-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating

  • By Robert Weiss

• Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook for Sex Addicts to Help their Partners Heal

• Mind over explicit matter

• Everyman’s Battle

• The subtle art of not giving a f*ck

  • Caring more about yourself —> direct approach.

• The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography

• The Molecule of More

• Dopamine Nation

• Out of the Shadows

• Sex Addict Anonymous Big Green Big

  • 12 Step

• In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavio

• Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery

• A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery

• Contrary to Love Helping the Sexual Addict

• Don't Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction

• The Presence Process: A Healing Journey into Present Moment Awareness

• No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model

  • Challenging long-standing core beliefs

• Power of Habits

• Truple

  • Tracks high risk things (mostly for android)

  • Takes random screenshots on your phone and checks them

  • Gives you an accountability partner

  • Doesn’t block while monitoring

• Covenant Eyes

  • Accountability partner who sees all websites you go to

    • They get flagged if anything is innapropriate

  • Canopy has more options

• Canopy

  • Blocks apps based on filters

    • Default categories you can select

    • You can add additional filters

    • Can block the app store even

  • Geofence content

  • Prevents doomscrolling

  • Can add an accountability partner

    • If you have to go to one of those sites or download an app they have to approve

• App Block

  • Shows behaviors to an accountability partner

• Brick

  • Works like a key (you may need someone to hold it for you)

    • Not good if you lack self control

  • Cheaper than yearly subscription of any apps

  • Canopy can block certain work apps due to VPN issue

  • Chose apps you want to block or allow

  • Chose websites you want to block

• No Nutt

  • Panic button

• My Girl

• Quitter

• Ever Accountable

• Dr. Trish Leigh

• Sunlight

• Exercise

• Healthy Foods

• Yoga

• Sleep

• Probiotics

• Omega 3s

• Fluoxetine 

  • Increases serotonin levels, which can help manage compulsive, OCD-like behaviors often associated with pornography addiction.

Wear a rubber band 

Wear a thick rubber band around my wrist pull it back and snap it. Not advocating for hurting yourself, but ties a negative to the behavior.

Create a safety plan

If you know you get trigger in certain places or around certain people build plans around that to remain "safe"

Reach out to someone

Whether sharing the specifics or not, just reach out to someone. Call a partner, friend, or family member and either discuss your current trigger or any other topic to distract yourself.